It’s the end of December and you know what that means.
January is just around the corner and along with that comes the dreaded question:
“What’s your New Year’s Resolution?”
Well, I haven’t made any in a few years because they never worked well for me.
How about you? Yeah, I didn’t think so.
Now before you break out in a cold sweat and think there’s no hope for either of us in 2016, take a deep breath.
There’s a better way to approach the coming year and I learned it a few years ago from my mentor and coach, Christine Kane, and have used it ever since.
It’s all about choosing one word that will encompass your entire year. What you want to accomplish. Who you want to be. How you want to show up.
Just one word.
It might seem small. It yields big results.
Before you choose it, look back at what you accomplished this past year and write it down – all of it. Pretty amazing, right? Coming from a place of gratitude and excitement when reviewing the past year will open the doors to discovering what you’d like to create in 2016.
Now that you have your list – an impressive one at that – it’s time to start thinking about some things in a much deeper way.
Most goals – lose weight, make $100,000, exercise 5 times a week, you know the drill – are disconnected from what’s really important and meaningful to you. It’s all got to resonate with you or it won’t work, right? (We’ve all experienced that).
In order for goal setting to really work, you need to connect your goals to the vision of who you want to be – and how you want to be in your life. Goals you set at this level will be much deeper and more powerful, propelling you toward them.
So, what’s most meaningful for you?
Here’s my suggestion on how to find out:
1. Qualities: What qualities are super important to you – honesty, integrity, connection, family, love? If you have a difficult time coming up with some, start thinking about people you admire and ask yourself why – what are their qualities?
2. Make a list of these.
3. Study the words you’ve written down. Are there any that are similar, like joy, laughter, exuberant? Make note of those groups.
4. Narrow your list to the absolute most important ones – about 6 or so. Start to imagine what your life would be like if you were living into those words every day. (I’m getting goose bumps just thinking about it!)
5. Choose one word from this list that incorporates how you want to think and feel in the coming year. Don’t pick one based on what you think you should be. Those originate in shame and that never works. Choose your word from a deeper place of how you want to think and feel – it may surprise you.
So now you have your word for your year!
Why is this so different from resolutions?
Your word will teach you about you. It will show you how you sabotage yourself and squash your creativity. It will help you become much more aware of your reactions, thoughts, feelings. You’ll learn about your usual patterns of thoughts and behaviors that have kept you from living the life you want.
Awareness is key to growing into the person you want to become and having the life you want to be living.
I’ve chosen BELIEVE for my word this year for many reasons because I just love how full and empowered I feel when I’m living into that word! My heart expands and my spirit is lifted.
Each day is an opportunity to live your word to the fullest.
If you were to live into your word every day, how would your life be different in a year?
How would you feel?
Let’s find out together, okay?
P.S. If you want to dive deeper and learn more on how to choose your word, my friend and mentor, Christine Kane has just what you need – and it’s free!
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