How many times have you lost the same 10 pounds – 4? 5?
What about going to the gym and finally getting that workout routine in? Never happens.
How about becoming more organized and managing your calendar? Yeah, I know.
This is the experience of most people.
As a matter of fact, according to a study by The University of Scranton’s Journal of Clinical Psychology, only 39% of people in their 20’s achieves their resolution goals each year.
And the number keeps decreasing with age. By the time you are in your fifties only 14% of people achieve their resolution goals each year.
Why do you have a hard time staying committed to a goal?
Here are a few reasons:
- We bite off big chunks that aren’t realistic. Essentially, we go from doing nothing to saying we will do everything.
- We make commitments based on what we think we “should” be doing. We worry too much of what other people are thinking instead of asking ourselves, “what do I really want?”
- We don’t have the right mindset. We have not made that internal shift.
Should I make a goal or a New Year’s Resolution?
It doesn’t matter what you call it as long as you’re committed to it. If you have a lot of baggage around the words “goals” or “resolution” choose something more neutral like “intention” or “decision”. You’ll want to think of this as a lifestyle change rather than a short-term change. The key is to make your decision from a deep level and make sure it’s a doable.
What steps should we take to make sure our mindset is in alignment with our goals?
Notice your thoughts – We don’t spend enough time clearing out our thoughts that aren’t serving us well. We just take what we think as solid truth. Think of your brain as a house you live in. Would you only clean that house once? No way! It would be filled with garbage, dirty dishes and laundry. Yuck! We need to clean our minds, too, and get rid of thoughts that aren’t productive and don’t get us to where we want to go. Start to notice the thoughts in your head. Get curious about them. Question whether you want to keep them or replace them.
Ask Why – Sometimes we set goals and don’t know why we’re setting them. We think we “should” do this or that. To find out if this goal is really what you want to achieve, ask yourself “why” 5 times – at least. Go deep on this and you’ll find your answer. This last “why” can bring forth some emotions, which is great. Feeling those emotions connects the goal to you on a much deeper level. This is one way to know you’ve chosen the right goal for you and it will keep you motivated and focused on achieving it .
Decide – Every day, before your feet hit the floor, decide that you are going to take action toward your goal. Make that commitment to yourself and stay focused for the day.
What are the best ways I can practice having a positive mindset toward my goals?
Journal daily. Notice successes, no matter how small. Notice opportunities for change, times when you didn’t act in a way that supported your intention. Dissect that. Get curious. It’s not about failure. It’s about making lasting changes in your thoughts and behavior.
Gratitude journal. I’ve been using this journal for a couple of years now and just love it! It takes only five minutes and provides questions for you, so all you need to do is fill in the blanks. Super easy and a great way to stay motivated.
Podcasts. I highly recommend Brooke Castillo’s podcast because it’s all about how to change your thinking so you’re in alignment with what you truly want. She has about 200 episodes to choose from, so I know you’ll be able to find some that resonate with you.
Vision Board. Create a vision board for your 2018. This encompasses everything you desire for the year. I use all parts of my life: work, relationships, health/fitness, spirituality, financial, etc. You can create one on sites like Pinterest or channel your inner craftyness and use magazines and scissors and go to town searching for words, phrases and photos that are in alignment with what you want to create and who you want to be in 2018. It will keep you motivated, so be sure to display it where you will see it regularly.
Why is mindset important?
Mindset is everything. Our thoughts drive our emotions. Our emotions dictate how we behave and our behavior determines the results we get in our lives. If we want certain outcomes, we must start with what’s driving everything – our thoughts. Mindset combined with self-awareness is the most powerful tool you have.
Start your 2018 off with the right mindset and clarity of what you want to accomplish and how you want to lead. How? Book a no-obligation 3-Point Mini Leadership Assessment Call with me today! Let’s partner up and make this your best year yet!